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The state and future of biblical counseling, Part 2


Let me first make two caveats about this posts before I talk about some of the weaknesses of the movement. I should first say that this and yesterday’s posts are not exhaustive evaluations of biblical counseling. Yesterday, I tried to describe what I think are the key features of biblical counseling–the features that I find very compelling. Second, remember these have to be stereotypes. Biblical counselors come in all shapes and sizes and skill level. So, try not to be offended if I paint biblical counseling too nice or not nice enough…

As I said yesterday, biblical counseling has spent much time considering how to disciple broken and sinful people through life in a broken and sinful world. Biblical counseling focuses on how to live faithfully, to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly in the circumstances we find ourselves in. And yes, a key component is taking one self to task to put off the old self and put on the new.

What are some of the weaknesses?

1. Isolationist. Whether forced or by choice, biblical counselors have done less collaboration with other mental health theorists and professionals. This may lead to suspicion of other models and less interest in learning from the skills of others.  Frankly, sometimes it leads to dishonesty. Biblical counselors have benefitted from the insights or other christian and nonChristian authors. You do see evidences of cognitive/behavioral theory, evidences of particular ways of handling certain disorders. And yet, not many footnotes acknowledging those influences.

2. Individualist. Counselors recognize that counselees have little power to change circumstances or others. What they do have the power to do is to be responsible for their own attitudes and actions. However, moving to responsibility sometimes happens too quickly by biblical counselors. “Yes, your spouse’s critical spirit is a difficult thing…let’s look at how your response to her…Yes, your abuse as a child was sin, but now lets look at your unwillingness to…” We do need to get to how the counselee will choose to respond to their world and yet we also need to understand and name the impact of the community. Many false names (from within and without) have been given to these kinds of situations. Therefore, the person needs time to explore what names and stories they use to define themselves first. They need someone to hear their story even if it is full of misperceptions. Biblical counseling tends to deal primarily with individual change without looking at the impact of the larger system on that change.

3. Justice seeking; suffering reduction. If as in #2, the focus of biblical counseling has been on individual sanctification, then it may be that less focus has been on how to seek justice when sinned against and less focus on finding specific ways to counter the physical/psychological effects of the fall. Biblical counseling loving people need to advance our understanding of how the body impacts human responses to trouble. Some biblical counselors are beginning to do this. I think of my friend, Mike Emlet (CCEF), who has taught about how to think and respond to difficult, impulsive, and emotionally labile children.  He has helped me think about the role of the body in rebellious children. Why is it that children (and us adults) are more irritable when tired or hungry? While biblical counselors have rightly said that we ought not excuse our behaviors with circumstances. We shouldn’t say, “I’m sorry I blew up at you. I was tired.” It sounds blameshifting, right? And yet, some do have less control when tired and hungry. Can we be as careful in developing help as we are in developing accurate diagnosis of sin?

4. Exhortational and goal oriented. Despite progress, I think most biblical counseling is about telling and exhortation toward good goals. In reality, most of my clients know what goal they should be working towards and can name their sin. But they are still stuck. Biblical counselors need much more work (at least in their writings) on the nature of incarnational relationships and the change that takes place in counseling processes that include validation, choice, silence, reflection, etc. I think a deeper understanding of emotion and interpersonal processes might help here.

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Restoration as Surgery


In Restoring the Fallen, chapter 7 begins this way:

Earl, we want you to cancel all your speaking engagements, resign from teaching at the seminary and suspend all your writing projects for at least two years. You are not in a position to be helping other people right now… (p. 63)

Earl Wilson recalls having this reaction: Am I willing to leave my sinful way and begin to walk in God’s light? (ibid). How would you react to someone telling you that you shouldn’t work for 2 years?

When leaders are caught in or admit their significant hidden sin patterns, they must choose between escape (or the easier path) and honesty. This kind of honesty is not just about the sin at the surface (e.g., the abuse of power, sexual sin, addictions, etc.) but about uncovering the “self-absorption, pride, disrespect of others, selfishness…and distorted view of [one’s] own spirituality.” (p. 64). The critical question is whether or not such severe honesty can happen if the person is still trying to maintain a portion of their leadership.

This chapter highlights 4 steps to consent for radical surgery: deciding to be honest, being willing to submit to the authority of God as revealed through the care team, being willing to give up secrecy, and “being willing to ‘avoid the edge‘–to break the habit of coming right up to sin and then trying to lean away just enough to keep from falling.” (p. 66)

What is the purpose of this surgery? Repentance. This chapter lists the following activities

1. Sin acknowledged as sin (no rationalizations!)
2. Bridges burned.
3. The possibility of sin must be ruled out. The authors consider, “I’m sorry Lord. Please help me” to be insufficient. Therefore, the person must go back to #2 and burn more bridges.
4. Willingness to allow other sins to be brought to light. Denial and shame have ways of so focusing on big ticket sins that the soil that allows those sins to grow are not examined and dealt with.

This chapter reminds me that I mostly prefer sin management rather than sin mortification. I prefer to not suffer the consequences of my fleshly desires rather than killing off what is not from God. We all need to face the fact that there are some sins (usually the littlest ones) that we are not willing to give up. Maybe it’s pride. Maybe it’s self-protection.

I am convicted that if I have any hope of being a successful surgeon in someones life, I must go under the knife on a regular basis.

Who in your life do you entrust your spiritual surgery to?

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What is restoration for leaders who abuse power?


Been blogging on Restoring the Fallen  and some of its ideas. Chapter 5 of the book is entitled, “What is restoration?” This is a key question we counselors face. The book really addresses this topic through many chapters but I want to highlight some of the points in this chapter:

1. “An effective restoration process must deal not only with the ruin of the disaster, but also with the internal weaknesses that caused it.” (p. 42). “…major lifestyle adjustments can be readily identified by team members as desirable goals, and these often become the focal point of restoration. They are not, however, what restoration is all about. If they are all that is addressed, the real work will not get done.” (p. 43)
2. “The foundation for restoration is reconciliation with God…For someone to desire restoration, he or she needs a renews view of God’s mercy and his demand for personal holiness.” (p. 44-5).
3. Restoration (healing, strengthening, rebuilding) is a choice. Either the person will choose not to repent, feign repentance, or repent and chose restoration.  
4. They do a nice job of describing pseudo-restoration

a. “lets just get this behind us” mentality
b. excuse making and justifying by pointing to circumstances
c. ignoring the impact on the family; ignoring the devastation to others
d. stopping with confession; then focusing on getting forgiven

Choosing restoration means,

a. confession of all secrets (a process NOT an event)
b. shunning denial and defensiveness
c. submitting to the care of others; giving up control for decisions

Of course, restoration in this context means restoration to God and to the people of God. It does not necessarily refer to restoration to former positions, careers, etc.

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Why 2 weeks of vacation ought to be mandated


I realized today that I’m more relaxed than I’ve been in some time. 1.5 weeks into our vacation. And that even though I just finished driving up and down the auto road to the top of Mt. Washington. 6288 feet. Hairpin turns, 12% grade, no guard rails, above treeline. Yikes. But a glorious day on top. No wind, 55 degrees, sunny, views for miles and miles.  

Also, just finished Steven Carter’s The Emperor of Ocean Park. If you like depressing stories, that one will do for you. Well written.

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Perfect evening on a sandbar


Our friends, The Papanicolaous, took us on their boat last night to a sand bar off of Crane beach, Ipswich, MA. Crane beach, for those who like toilets, is named after Mr. Crane, who invented the flush toilet. Anyhow, we had a beautiful warm evening on sandbar. We anchored in about 3 feet of water and walked to a sand bar with our food, chairs, even a low table. Had a wonderful meal with their friends and walked around this very large sand bar. The kids found a couple of dead skates. Looking east we saw the wide Atlantic and the small waves criss-crossing just before the sandbar. Looking west we saw the setting sun. What was especially nice was the breeze that kept the “greenheads” away. Greenheads are biting flies that live for about 1 month and were biting quite nicely at the beach we were at earlier in the day. 

As our friends say, this kind of quiet, warm evening when the tide is low doesn’t happen very often so we were glad to have the experience. Reminds me of the days when my parents lived on the coast of Maine and we did similar trips to deserted islands in order to cook and eat lobsters we had just bought at the dock.  

Just as the sun set,  we packed up for the return trip up the Rowley river where they moor their boat. Around 9 pm we finished off a great day by going to the “cow” or White Farms of Ipswich (it has a cow on the roof), an ice cream shop that makes their own ice cream.

These kinds of nights remind me why I love New England so much. While the water is warmer in NJ, it lacks the appeal of the hills and varying coastline of New England.

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Springfield, Vt on the map!


My hometown has had its 15 minutes of fame. It hosted the first premier of the Simpsons movie after winning an on-line vote for the best Springfield video. The town of less than 10,000 that has been dying slowly since the loss of the tool and die factories in the 80s.  I was surprised that its movie theatre still exists in the center of town. It used to be (may still for all I know) owned by a family that went to our church.

On my way back from Northern NH I’m going to pass through to see what has changed since I was there some 10 years ago.

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Snitching and self-preservation


Philadelphia is on track to have over 400 homicides this year. Gun violence is out of control. Recently, a murder happened at a crowded bar but there are no witnesses. This is a re-occurring problem. Why? Simply, intimidation and a sense of despair that you can’t really do anything about it.

Yesterday on our local public radio station, Marty Moss-Coane talked with a couple of folks about this problem. Check here for the mp3. While anti-snitching efforts abound (posters, tee-shirts, even a website dedicated to reveal those who turn state’s evidence), you might think that people would come forward to tell on murders because they want to get them off the street.

No. On the radio program the guests pointed out that (1) you don’t trust the police because blow in and blow out and are suspicious of everyone, (2) you don’t know how long it is going to take to get the person off the street as it may take up to 2 years for trial, (3) you might get shot in a random drive-by, but if you become a witness, your chances of getting killed go way up.

I can’t imagine this is much different than the situation in Iraq. There are many non-violent folks who would like peace but their fear of reprisal is greater than their love for change. Its hard to gather large groups of fearful people to rally against those with guns because it requires a willingness to die.

As a suburbanite, I know nothing of this need to protect myself. So, I find it hard to know what to suggest to stop the violence or to give counsel to the average joe on the street.

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Vacation! 1 Year of blogging


The family and I are leaving for 2 weeks of vacation to good ole New England. Stops in CT, MA, ME, and NH. Alas, only driving through VT (my hometown got to premiere the new Simpson’s movie. Probably the best thing that has happened there is awhile) but missing RI completely. Will spend it with family and friends. May put up an entry should the time and interest arise.

And just about this time last year, I started this blog. Its been fun, sometimes a struggle, but well worth it from my end. Hope you’ve found something of value here from time to time.

See you in August.

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Ethics update from APA


The 2006 annual report from the APA contains a report from the Ethics committee.  Here’s the skinny on complaints:

1. In 2006 282 inquiries were received; 82 complaint forms were received. If you count how many complaints were received (including nonmembers), a total of 672 new matters were brought before the committee.
2. Complaints were filed against .09% of the membership (91,000 strong)
3.  What is the most frequent complaint processed? Loss of licensure. This means members lost their license due to some alleged misbehavior and so APA then took up the case to determine whether they should also be censured by the APA. So, it seems State boards are quite active right now. Unfortunately, these boards are often not accountable to anyone.

15 of the loss of licensure cases also heard by APA were due to sexual misconduct, 3 were related to child custody cases.
7 were due to a felony conviction.

4. Of the cases opened in 2006, 28% had to due with insurance and fee problems; 24% had to do with sexual misconduct.

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Passion Fest 2007 event in Pottstown tomorrow


For those of you in the area, you might consider going to Passion Fest 2007 tomorrow. It is held on the grounds of the Pottstown High School–from noon til 10 pm. Andy Palau will provide some evangelistic speaking, several well known bands will play and of course there will be the skaters, bikers, and the like putting on an x games show. This is a family event and not just for the kids. This site will tell you a bit about it and give you directions and the bands that are playing: http://www.passionfest.org/2007/site_flash/index.html.

I’ll be supervising a group of Biblical students who will provide counseling and prayer opportunities for those interested in talking to someone. 

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