PTSD Katrina Story in Philadelphia


The news is littered with Katrina stories marking the 1 year anniversary of the storm. Our own crew of 2 staff and 4 students just returned from the Bay St. Louis, MS area where they were meeting with folk. The pictures they brought back show the immensity of the damage and the devastation that still has not been touched: boats in parking lots, houses off pilings, cars upside down, stores with all their insides still as it was a year ago.

But today I was listening to a story on the radio of a NO police officer who came to Philly to try to start over. Through lots of help from Philadelphia, the federal government, the Fraternal Order of Police and churches, the Phillips family was able to have a house rented for him in SW Philly. Not a great area at all. Its interesting that his being plunked down in this particular neighborhood and seeing the apathy toward the homeless is what really brought out the pain and flashbacks for him. Seeing the uncaring attitudes of those who are supposed to be helping the homeless brought waves of pent up pain and grief.

What biblical categories do we have for this level of pain and anguish? Its easy for us to get an “out of sight, out of mind” mentality where we think that those who are no longer in danger should be able to get over their traumas. A 30 year old woman who was sexually abused by her uncle for several years should be able to function. A father of a boy who committed suicide after a fight between them should be able to move on 5 years later. 

I’m reminded that we have to do a better job in helping others explore their deep agonies, see the beauty that is around them, and sensitize ourselves to the plight of others if we have any hope in helping others heal through the hope of the Gospel. 

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Where’s your geographical home?


Just spent a week in Connecticut and Massachusetts. I spent most of my growing up years in Vermont, have lived in Mass, NH, and Maine, where my parents live now. There’s something about NE that feels like home. The houses, the terrain, the temperature. It all gives the feel of home, even though I have only lived 2 years in NE in the last 20. Even the Red Flops 5 game loss to the Yankees at home made me feel like I had never left.

We spent 2 days with friends who live north of Boston. To me, this is quintessential NE. The water, the houses, the beauty all around. 

I wonder if others have this experience too. I guess its a taste of Heaven, when we finally feel at rest and at home with the Lord.

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The conflict of a degree granting institution


Thinking a bit more about confidentiality and the issues that arise in a Masters of Counseling program. Dingle’s Sister raised a couple of interesting points in “her” earlier comments to a post I made about confidentiality. She suggested that we have a conflict:

Are we here to (a) grant degrees or (b) graduate healthy, transparent, wise counselors?

To be fair, there is a bit of a conflict. We are all about graduating authentic, transparent, humble ministers/counselors of the Gospel. But we also want to stay in business and that requires enough bodies to keep the place going. Some institutions have decided they are merely academic centers of learning—paying no attention to character. This is a weak and indefensible argument, even in secular settings. I can’t put my hands on the article, but I read where a university was successfully sued for graduating someone in grad psych program that was clearly unhealthy. The courts found that the school could have or should have known that the person would likely harm another.

At Biblical, we clearly state that we are about spiritual growth and character building along with skill and knowledge acquisition. Our tight community encourages transparency and application of biblical counseling principles to self prior to using them on others. We want students AND professors to be vulnerable with each other. (Obviously, there are limits to this at Biblical and also out in the real world, but I’ll save that for another post.) We do evaluate character and maturity upon admission and throughout the program.

This is why we are developing our in-house counseling center. We acknowledge and explore the limits of dual relationships (being counselor and professor/staff member) but do not shun them. Part of the Christian life is carrying each other’s burdens. We will walk with those who reveal their struggles with us. Yes, there may be times when we must sit down with students and help them explore whether this is the right time for them to be here. We do not want school to interfere with the work God may be calling them to (ministry to family members, attacking an addiction, etc.). And yes, we may have to ask some to leave. But we don’t do so just because we learn about an ongoing struggle with sin. That would mean Biblical must shut down. Contumacy, an old word used by Presbyterians when talking about excommunication, is probably the only reason we would ask someone to leave (not counting financial or academic reasons students must leave). If a student is unwilling to repent, is boldly hardhearted about their sin over a period of time, they might be asked to leave. Here’s an example: a few years ago, I had a student who engaged in flagrant, repeated plagiarism. At first, I assumed ignorance was the problem and educated the student regarding the problem of taking another’s words and passing them off as his own. When the problem continued and the student denied or made excuses but did not take responsibility, I was left with no choice but to end his education at Biblical.

Believe it or not, its not unusual for students to talk with us about their deepest struggles. I am always amazed at how many do in papers and in face to face conversations. While hypocrisacy is alive and well in all of us, I see many many transparent, struggling Christians who desire to have their lives transformed and are willing to be known in their struggles.

Its an honor to watch what the Lord is doing in each of their lives.  

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Who’s at fault for atheistic psychology?


Its easy to get into an us vs. them attitude in life. It the Christians against the schemes of the world.

I teach Christians interested in learning biblically authentic ways to help others work through emotional and relationship problems. As we study psychological techniques, many of my students rail against the secularism, the individualism, and the lack of a biblical anthropology found in mainstream psychology. And they are right to do so. But as a result of our critique of psychology, we often end up being zenophobics. We begin to think that those secularists have created our problems. “They” turned from God and developed atheistic, human-centered, evolutionary theories that explain the world apart from God.

What I find most interesting is that the “they” we often refer to is really “us.” Throughout the course of history, God-fearing, faithful, men and women have made decisions that seemed right in their own eyes but had far-reaching, negative results. Start at the beginning of time. Adam and Eve choose their own power over dependency on God. Abram chooses Hagar to fulfill God’s promises but creates the beginnings of the conflict between Jews and Arabs.
Lot’s daughters choose to have children with their drunken father and so start the races of the Moabites and the Ammonites—two enemies of God’s people. In modern history, Rene Descartes (a believer in God) chooses to disbelieve everything he cannot prove. The founding director of the
Worcester State Hospital believes that the soul cannot be diseased and so doesn’t believe that the 6 hours of daily Christian education offered in his hospital plays any part of the positive results the patients had. As a result, the hospital stopped the good work of healing minds through the Gospel.

My point: people of faith are usually behind the foolish choices we’ve made. We, not they, have done what was right in our own eyes and so have conceived social dynamics that have later created misery upon misery. So, lets stop whining about how society is going to hell in a handbasket and realize our own active and passive choices have lead to much of our present day problems.

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A Taste of the Wedding Feast of the Lamb


Could you wear the white dress?

Just attended a wedding. It was a beautiful and poignant event. The bride (we’ve known here since she was a little girl) and groom glowed with love and joy. The father of the bride made some of the best remarks I’ve ever heard about a couple—especially his new son-in-law–and presented the Gospel, simply and elegantly. Siblings played music and a brother made a toast to his sister that brought both laughter and tears to most eyes.

Oh, did I fail to mention that the bride is “showing”? Some might think she shouldn’t have worn white. Maybe they should have quietly gotten married. But, not this family. They celebrated the marriage just as they would if the couple weren’t in this circumstance. It reminded me of my wife’s lecture on a passage in Hosea. She talked about how our fairy tales usually revolve around the hero male fighting to get the virginal maiden (e.g., Prince Philip and Sleeping Beauty). But the tale of Hosea turns fairy tales on their heads. The perfect male comes and rescues his unfaithful wife, even buys her back from a slave owner. His sacrifice is for one who certainly does not deserve it. And he proceeds to be tender to her and to clean her up.

The thought that I had during the wedding, while looking at the bride’s white dress, is that none of us deserve to wear white—virginal or not. But that is exactly the wedding clothes that God gives us in His economy of Love. And last night as I watched family and friends toast the lovely couple I got to have a glimpse of that future wedding feast of the Lamb.

Rev. 7:13-17: Then one of the elders asked me, “These in white robes–who are they, and where did they come from?” 

I answered, “Sir, you know.”And he said, “These are they who have come out of the great tribulation; they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. Therefore, 

“they are before the throne of Godand serve him day and night in his temple;and he who sits on the throne will spread his tent over them.  Never again will they hunger;never again will they thirst.The sun will not beat upon them,nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd;he will lead them to springs of living water.

And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”

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Happy 16th Anniversary Kim!


16 years ago, a brutally hot day, I married my best friend, Kimberly Vinal. By the way, I highly recommend doing it that way. We met at Westminster, became friends and just enjoyed each other’s company without the sexual tension. It was only after I realized that I didn’t want to lose this relationship that I began to see her in a new light. Thankfully, she warmed up to the idea after saying no at first to dating the kid she had been hanging out with (I’m 12 years younger).

Its been a wonderful ride thus far. We’ve come a long ways as a couple. We’ve traveled over things like my immature 24 year old stupidity, infertility, 4 moves, my doctoral programs, 2 adoptions, and a host of other things. What do I love about my wife? She has a bad memory for my stupid behavior. She is usually game for adventures. She loves to talk about whatever with me. She has great insights. She works incredibly hard and selflessly so. She’s a great mother. She is a great communicator and bible teacher (better than me!). Oh, and she’s beautiful to boot.

Happy anniversary honey. 

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Making Abuse of Power Okay


If you have time, read last Sunday’s Philadelphia Inquirer cover story on the police who use their badge to extort sex (http://www.philly.com/mld/philly/news/15263711.htm). Most interesting was the comments made by former State Trooper, Michael Evans. He talked about how he justified his behavior to himself:

“I would see women that were vulnerable where I could appear as a knight in shining armor,” he said. “I’m going to help this woman who’s being abused by her boyfriend, and then I’ll ask for sexual favors.”

What empowers a person to do what should normally be distasteful? Self-deception–having thoughts of oneself that one wants to have (rather than should have). I’m sure his “knight” fantasies didn’t include groping a pregnant woman in a hospital bed and masturbating, but thats the power of self-deception. It makes it possible for him to keep thinking good thoughts about himself while doing evil.

Isn’t this true for all of us. Here’s one form of my self-deceit. I like to think of myself as up to date in the world and on top of things. So, I surf the web for information to keep me up to date. But self-deception (I’m a knowledgable guy) allows me to forget that I’m surfing and stealing time from my family or from work…

We wonder how someone could do horrific things? By only entertaining thoughts of ourselves that we want to have. This is how we make acceptable things that should not be. It never happens overnight, but it happens when we practice naming things beautiful that are really ugly.

What’s the antidote? I came across this quote some time ago and it best describes what we must do to work with the Spirit to challenge our inmost thoughts of ourself:

It were an easy thing to be a Christian, if religion stood only in a few outward works and duties. But to take the soul to task, and to deal roundly with our own hearts, and to let conscience have its full work, and to bring the sould unto God, this is not so easy a matter, because the soul out of self-love is loath to enter into itself, lest it should have other thoughts of itself that it would have.

Richard Sibbes (Puritan Divine)

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Confidentiality an overrated thing?


Just got done talking with a colleague about how we will handle confidentiality in our about-to-be-launched pastoral counseling center for students in our Seminary. By the very nature that we are all employees of the Seminary, we will engage in dual relationships with our counselees. In professional ethics codes, dual relationships are frowned upon and those who engage in them must prove they are not harmful (guilty until proven innocent). In Christian communities, dual relationships are commonplace and even considered by many to be biblically authentic (The AACC Code discusses this: www.aacc.org).

In our case, we will be their teachers/advisors and their counselor. How will we handle it when someone tells us they are involved in activity that would be considered antithetical to being a wise counselor? Should we have the right to decide that a counseling student can no longer be in the program based on some disclosure they make in a counseling session? Here’s some of my thoughts on the matter.

1. Students are not required to come see us. If we give thorough informed consent about the possible implications of seeing us (normal possible breaches of confidentiality and possible side effects of dual relationships) and they still want to see us, they should expect us to be concerned about their disclosure of behavior not becoming of a healthy grad of the school. They should expect that we will continue to be concerned whether they see us further or not.

2. We will have to live with messiness. We learn things about another and don’t always get to know that it came to a good conclusion. We don’t always get to have a say in how it ends. I will always know of some who decide to present themselves as one thing to the public, but are quite the opposite in private. We can’t be in the business of forcing others to do the right thing.

3. We’d better be clear what might constitute egregious violations that require us to end a student’s pursuit of an education. Sinful behavior cannot be the line since that would end the Seminary’s existence. So, what is? That is the question we will have to answer prior to starting this center.

More thoughts on this later…

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Politics & Science


Yesterday, Bush vetoed the stem cell vote. Today in the car, I heard a member of congress hail their initial passage of the bill as “finally getting politics out of science.” Unfortunately, there is no such thing as apolitical science. I understand when a member of congress says something like this but too often I hear scientists say the same thing. Science is never free from subjective interpretation, presuppositions, etc. When a person says, “lets get politics out of science” they usually mean, “lets get YOUR politics our of MY science.”

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Hello world!


Welcome to my blogsite. I plan to give my observations on the world of Christian psychology, the church, and various other things. While I’ll be playing with this site this summer, it will be more attended to in September when I am in the throes of teaching at Biblical Seminary (www.biblical.edu).

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