Human moral frailty is never singular. Meaning, we don’t sin with just one sin. Every moral failing includes at least 3 parts: deception, action, cover-up. Think of deception and cover-up as bookends and the specific behaviors as the books in the middle. And just as it is hard to keep books on a shelf without bookends, it is hard to do what we know is wrong without deception of self and cover-ups.
What are your versions of bookends that give you “permission” to hate, to excuse, to overlook your faults?
Knocking down the bookends goes a long way to defeating outward sins like abuse as well as inward sins like festering bitterness.