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Moral distress? Moral trauma? An important update on definitions and concepts


The folks at Harvard’s Human Flourishing Program, led by Dr. Tyler VanderWeale, have published a paper updating the definitions of moral injury and distress. If you work with people suffering betrayal trauma–especially religious betrayal trauma–you may want to take the time to read their piece and recognize the aspects of moral trauma that may not be well addressed in the classic treatment of PTSD.

What is moral distress and trauma?

Years ago, moral injury was something described primarily in terms of an added impact on veterans of war. The symptoms of moral injury were seen to be in addition to PTSD, defined as an added injury when an individual perceived themselves as having transgressed basic human morals (e.g., a soldier is forced to kill civilians who are being used as shields by enemy fighters). It was commonly understood as the idea that I have done something so terrible that it is unforgiveable (or I have supported leaders who have done something that betrays basic humanity). Key features of moral injury focused on the experience of guilt/shame whereas key features of PTSD centered on horror and terror.

As the concept became better understood, we began to understand it’s existance among civilians as well. Here are some examples:

  • Someone who did something wrong (e.g., distracted driving) and badly wounded or killed another person
  • First responders who have to triage and, in essence, decide who lives and dies (e.g., the impossible decision between two terrible outcomes)
  • Victims of abuse who may have enlisted friends who also became victims of abuse
  • Someone who supported and defended a well-known leader who was later found to be harming others

Understanding moral distress of victims of trauma

This paper expands the idea of moral distress beyond the (perceived) perpetrator to that of the experience of victims of trauma/abuse. Consider the new definition offered by VanderWeale and summarized in a recent newsletter,

In trying to bring these concepts together, we conceived of such moral distress as lying on a “moral trauma spectrum” that included matters of both the severity and the persistence of distress. After months of synthesis of prior work, we defined “moral distress” as “distress that arises because personal experience disrupts or threatens: (a) one’s sense of the goodness of oneself, of others, of institutions, or of what are understood to be higher powers, or (b) one’s beliefs or intuitions about right and wrong, or good and evil.” When that distress became sufficiently persistent it would constitute “moral injury.” For such moral distress or moral injury, it was not only that some moral code was violated, but rather that whatever took place somehow challenged one’s whole understanding of right and wrong, or of good and evil, or of the goodness of oneself, others, institutions, or even the divine. That disruption of one’s moral understanding would then give rise to, sometimes severe, distress. When that distress was persistent and would not go away it would be appropriate to speak of “moral injury.” When the distress was sufficiently severe so as to seriously impair functioning over extended periods of time, it might sometimes even be appropriate to speak of “moral injury” disorder.

(Newsletter from Human Flourishing Program, received via email Sept 17, 2025)

Re-read the bolded text. It is not just that some moral code was violated by myself, but that one’s whole understanding of right/wrong of self, others, institutions or the divine has crumbled. Notice how this distress might be observed in individuals having experienced certain types of traumas:

  • Victim of sexual assault seeks help from justice system but ends up feeling blamed for it
  • Whistleblower in a church who seeks institutional support to stop the abuse by a leader but is then scapegoated for disrupting the ministry
  • Someone who is scammed out of money feels they have irreparably harmed others
  • Child experiencing abuse by a family member and when telling a parent is then told to be quiet no longer believes they have value
  • Person prays for justice and expects to be exonerated but ends up feeling abandoned and forgotten by God

How might this change our treatment of trauma?

The treatment of trauma focuses first on the care of one’s nervous system. Learning to modulate and calm one’s body is essential since the very nature of chronic trauma is an overactivated vigilance system even when the danger has passed. As a person develops capacity to return more quickly to baseline then there may be more of a focus on addressing the narrative and memory of how the traumatic experience changed perceptions of self and the world.

When we make room for the spiritual/moral impacts of both trauma and how communities respond to people who have suffered trauma, we can better address the moral distress experienced. Treatment modalities that only focus on the reduction of nervous system overload may miss addressing the existential and spiritual crises that haunt survivors. This is especially true when (a) faith communities implicitly (or explicitly) discourage expressing doubt about God, or (b) when clinicians ignore spiritual and moral discussions in therapy. Inviting and validating the very deep moral questions of hurting people is essential for their recovery, even when answers are not readily (or ever?) available. Any treatment that ignores moral distress will not be sufficient to the task of recovery. While I am hopeful that some of the recent trauma treatment modalities may speed recovery, I notice that these newer treatments often ignore questions of existence, narrative, and faith and focus almost solely on nervous system function. This may be needed in the first line of care but let us now be more alert to moral distress and injury in those who have survived abuse, assault, and other forms of betrayal trauma.

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Why am I STILL afraid? Some thoughts on what recovery from chronic anxiety looks like


I provide psychotherapy for many with chronic and debilitating anxiety. Anxiety is the most common malady in the world and comes in all sizes and shapes: panic, phobias, OCD, GAD, social anxiety, PTSD and more. For some it is very context driven (e.g., fear of flying) and for others it is constant and wide-ranging (e.g., OCD, PTSD).

Frequently, when a person comes to therapy, their first and enduring question is, “Can you make this go away? I just need it to stop.” They have struggled for a long time and have tried many things. Some have tried medications, others tried to limit exposure and avoid situations that would trigger the anxiety, and almost everyone has tried to talk (aka berate) themselves out of their feelings. “If I really trusted God this would not be happening!”

This desire to extinguish anxiety is completely understandable. Anxiety is horrible, consuming, and exhausting! We want it to go away and never come back. But–and this may seem absolutely disappointing to manyhaving the goal of zero anxiety is actually detrimental to a positive outcome and recovery.

Let’s explore what therapy is/does and why changing your relationship to anxiety is a better goal than trying to extinguish it.

What does therapy for anxiety look like?

Therapy for anxiety (at least what I practice) tends to have these common features1:

  • Compassion, understanding and curiosity about the physiology of anxiety
  • Experimentation on what short-circuits anxiety and identifying what intensifies the sensations
  • Practice relaxation/mindfulness/distraction with increasing exposure to feared stimuli
  • Exploring experiences/beliefs/values that may contribute to ongoing anxiety (e.g., a part is burdened with shame, perfectionism, assumptions of failure, etc.)

Notice the flow and trajectory. Compassion…Understand…Experiment…Practice…Examine (held beliefs). The flow isn’t really linear but it is hard to examine underlying beliefs or childhood experiences when you are in the middle of a panic attack.

Sessions early on look like understanding what is happening in our bodies when we are anxious. As we progress, we explore successes and challenges. We notice things that helped a little, or things that may have intensified anxiety. For example, having a friend try to convince you that your worries are unfounded may feel good at first but then leave you feeling more shame and more helpless. Or, maybe listening to a great podcast on the way to work reduces anxiety by a good 30 percent. This is, in essence, somatic psychotherapy.

The goal: PIVOT

When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. Ps 56:3

Notice the verse above says, “when.” Not if. When. We will be afraid, maybe often. And when that happens, we will do something. But what? How? In practical terms, we pivot.

What is pivoting and why do we do it? Pivoting is moving our mind/body/attention away from the cascade of fears. Instead of trying to dialogue with anxiety, we pivot away. Why do we pivot? We do so because anxiety is a TERRIBLE and completely unfair and unreasonable discussion partner. And since anxiety intrudes without your permission, you are not obligated to talk with it nor accept it as if anxiety is you.

Here is how it might work for me once I have recognized that what is happening is that my mind and body are locking onto an intrusive fear. I name the fear, then I pivot my mind by looking intently at the Ansel Adams photograph of El Capitan next to me. I describe the shadows and features I see. Or, I pivot my body by getting up and feeling the sensation of walking. I may pivot to my senses by smelling my coffee and taking a deep breath in and out. I do this pivot again and again in order to de-couple from the thoughts. And I actively use my body to lower felt tension. At first, this many seem about as successful as jumping off a cliff while flapping your arms. And yet, over time, your pivot will decrease your anxiety.

Notice what I do not do. I do not,

  • debate the fears
  • beat myself up for having fears
  • assume success is the cessation of anxiety

Why does it take so much work to fight anxiety?

We have been habituated into fear. Changing the automatic response takes work. It wasn’t our choice to be afraid but now we have to find a way to pivot out of something we never wanted. It isn’t our fault but now it is something we must respond to, just like someone with a migraine didn’t choose it but now will have to discover what helps curtail one. As we practice our pivots we will find they become slightly easier and more effective, just as when you practice a sport or an art, you will notice you are becoming more skilled.

What if my goal is not extinguishing anxiety?

In short, it is building a new relationship with anxiety where you accept that it exists but does determine how you will live. You acknowledge it but do not engage it. In doing so, you accept the challenge of building a competing neurocircuit alongside the fear pathway and activating that experience on repeat. The best competing circuits have deep meaning and connections with others. Here are some examples:

  1. Instead of trying to avoid making mistakes, look for mystery and experimentation
  2. Instead of trying to avoid panic, lean into doing something with your body that you have not doe (advanced yoga or stretching, increased weight lifting, knitting)

I want to leave you with one thought. If you learned something new about how anxiety is expressed in your body and if you learned how to gain even a little mastery over your body’s anxiety response then you have already begun to change your relationship to fear! You are beginning to be in charge rather than feeling controlled by fear. Your success is not always winning against fear but knowing that when you are afraid, you will put your trust in God and in the body he has given you.

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1These are common factors to all anxiety therapies though they may differ when focused on a particular kind of anxiety. In addition, I always recommend a medical evaluation to rule out other potential causes of anxiety as well as consideration of medications that may help support recovery.

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Recovering faith from toxic theology, ep 1


I’m trying out a little podcast. I don’t know about you, but I don’t have time to listen to hour long podcasts very often. Sometimes, I just want one thought to mull over for awhile.

So, I’ve created a two minute podcast and my first episodes will be about toxic theology that may interfere with living well with hard and confusing things in our lives. Episode 1 is about anxiety.

I’d love to hear from you as to whether this format works for you. Feel free to give advice or identify episodes you would like to hear.

https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-ufsrp-15bdd0c

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Helping Children Cope with Anxiety at Christmas


With COVID cases rising yet again, families are again needing to evaluate whether to spend the holidays with family. Even if plans are set, there may be tension in the air as news, politics, and opinions also rise with the rate of infection. This means that children listening in may experience more anxiety in the coming days. Here’s an Op Ed piece I contributed for the American Bible Society and published in the Christian Post: Helping Children Cope with Anxiety During the Holidays.

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What if we view anxiety as what it means to be human?


Do you often feel guilty that you struggle with anxiety? Do you beat yourself up afterwards? When you hear, “Be anxious for nothing but in everything and with thanksgiving present your requests to God” (Phil 4:6-7) do you feel more burdened knowing that you are often anxious and filled with worry?

Indeed the Scriptures speak very frequently about our anxieties and worries. Might it be that it is a human experience (this side of the Fall) that will not be removed? If you worried less about your worries; if you felt less shame and guilt for them, how might that change how you respond to your worries?

Discuss!

I leave you with this thought as you ponder your way of responding to your worry. Psalm 56:3 says, When I am afraid I put my trust in you. It doesn’t say that such trust erases fear. You can be afraid and be full of anxiety and trust God in the middle of that experience. One does not necessarily invalidate the other.

 

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Podcast on Anxiety


Recently, I was interviewed for a podcast on the topic of anxiety by Walt Mueller and the good folks at the Center for Parent/Youth Understandings. You can listen here: https://cpyu.org/resource/episode-39-anxiety-with-dr-phil-monroe/

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Does trusting God remove anxiety?


Over the years of doing therapy with Christians I have noticed how many feel guilty for their anxieties. “If only I could trust God more…I say I believe he is good but clearly I don’t trust him because I can’t stop being anxious.” Still others express distress that their faith in God does not change their feelings of hurt over past relational wounds and fears it will never get better.

It seems we believe this maxim: If I really trust in God, I will be at peace. I will not struggle with the brokenness around me or with the unknown future.

Is this true? Is it possible to trust God fully and experience chronic negative emotion?

Let me suggest a better maxim and then illustrate it with a couple of Psalms.

Because I trust God completely, I bring him my angst again and again.

At the recent #CCEF16 conference on emotions, David Powlison referred to Psalm 62:8a, Trust in him at all times, O people; He noted that this assertion is strong. But what does it look like in action? David pointed us to the next line (8b) Pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge. Trusting God looks a lot like venting, crying out in our confusion, sharing our fears and despairs.

Take a closer look at this Psalm. The writer is under assault by others. He likens himself to being a tottering fence, something easily knocked over. He is asking his enemies, “how long are you going to harm me?” He knows their intent. But their evil is the worst sort, one that pretends to be good but is really evil. They take delight in lies. With their mouths they bless, but in their hearts they curse. It is likely the psalmist could say, “with friends like this, who needs enemies?”

So, how does he talk to himself? Look at the cyclical pattern: reminder-pain-reminder-warning-reminder

  1. He starts with some truth. My only rest (or silence/peace) is in you God. You alone are my fortress. I will never [ultimately] be shaken.
  2. He laments. But you enemies are trying your best to destroy me, a weak, tottering fence.
  3. He reminds himself. Remember, look for rest and peace in God alone, it is only there you can find it, even when the ground is shaking
  4. He warns self and others. Don’t trust in your position, don’t trust in ill-gotten gain. And if God blesses you, don’t trust in the blessing
  5. He cycles back to truth. Remember this one thing: God you are strong AND loving. You will remain righteous in your dealings with us.

While the Psalm ends, I suspect the writer could easily have kept the pattern going, as in starting again with the first verse or adding more to the pattern.

This pattern of truth, honest admission of pain, reminder of truth is a far better picture of the reality of life hidden in Christ than the false stoic (or Zen) image of being unperturbed by the chaos in and around us. God does not remove us from the storm. Instead, we express our trust (as much to remind ourselves as in bold assertion), we lament, we groan, we pour out our troubles and we circle back to the one truth we can hang our hope on.

You can see this pattern also in Psalm 42 and 43 with slight variations: Remember when I used to be out in front leading the worship but now my tears are my only food. Why am I like this? I hope in God. But I am downcast. Day and night God is loving…but it seems you have forgotten me in my oppression? Vindicate me. You are my stronghold so why is this not getting better? Free me so I can worship you…yet I am still in despair even as I hope in you.

If you feel guilty much of the time when thinking about your level of trusting God, consider this alternative narrative: it is the greatest act of trust to keep bringing God your troubles, even when things or your response to them do not get easier.

So, does trust in God remove our anxieties? Not as much as we might think. But, if you could no longer feel guilty about your angst, might you in fact feel more peace as you trust God through the storm?

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Dissociation: What is it? What can be done?


For those of you who love or are helping PTSD or complex trauma victims, you may find this video link helpful. Dr. Diane Langberg (after an introduction by me) explores the experience and process of dissociation, or “leaving” the present. She discusses why it happens and what is going on when a person dissociates. At the end of the video, she explores a few helpful ideas for helping to ground the individual in the present.

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5 Minute Antidote to Anxiety repost


Over at the Biblical faculty blog, I have a post previously posted here. You can read it here. The trick to this antidote? It starts every 5 minutes.

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The Five Minute Antidote for Anxiety


I’m an anxious person by trait. It is a common trait, especially in graduate school (in combination with narcissism. I say this also in self-disclosure; both features support successful completion of doctoral studies). Anxious people tend to spend considerable time ruminating through “What if…” questions along with should, coulda, woulda thinking. We worry about our past failures coming to light and whether we’ll be up to the challenge the future presents.

Sound pretty negative way to live? It is. The only way we differ from depressed people is that we still have some thought that our worry might save us from disaster. As you can imagine, such worry robs us of joy. It keeps us from enjoying the present or seeing God’s gracious hand on our lives. And we compound our problems by then shaming ourselves for failing to follow God’s command, “Do not be afraid.”

The Five Minute Antidote

Part of the problem with anxiety is that we are trying to control/manage every possible outcome in order to avoid future disaster(s). Fearful people know that the answer to their anxiety will not include,

  • Just not caring anymore. We’ve tried that…it doesn’t work.
  • Making sure we get it RIGHT. Tried that too. Didn’t work.

So, what might work? Try this on for size,

What is God’s plan for me for the next five minutes?

Most of us have no clue what God is planning for us next year or even next week. But, I suspect most of us can discern what we need to do right now…for the next five minutes,

  • I need to make dinner
  • I need to read this assignment for school
  • I need to attend to my child’s homework
  • I can call a friend who is grieving

We usually know the one thing we can do for the next five minutes. Do that with as much focus as you can. Here’s what you are likely to discover: your anxiety decreases, or at least does not increase. When we stop the ruminations or internal conversations, our anxieties decrease and our ability to be present increases. So, when you find yourself in an anxious stew, try to ask yourself, What is one thing I can do for the next five minutes or What does God want me to do for the next five minutes? Consider this your method of living out Psalm 131, where you are are stilled and quieted like a weaned child, content with what He has for you for the next five minutes.

Oh, did you think this will solve all your anxiety problems? No, of course not. But where God does give you something to focus your attention, call that a success. Part of the Christian life is repetition–repeated worship, repeated repentance, repeated obedience, repeated trust. So, do pray for God to remove your “thorn” but look for five minute relief. Notice when it works and then ask God for another five minute focus on the thing he has for you RIGHT NOW.

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