Previously I posted this quote:
It is an easy thing for one whose foot is on the outside of calamity to give advice and to rebuke the sufferer
Attributed to Aeschylus, Greek playwright
I fully believe that we counselors are able to counsel those who suffer in ways we have never experienced. I need not be sexually abused to help those who have been. But, let us not believe that we truly understand those experiences we never knew. I have walked with a variety of people with terrible suffering. I think they found my listening and counsel helpful. But now that I am having their experience, I now know I knew NOTHING of what they were really experiencing.
We should not be hesitant to help. But be wary of easy advice!