Monthly Archives: September 2007

Restoration to the office of minister after a fall?


Can I share with you a great nugget Diane Langberg shared with me last week from Ezekiel? It was so good that I thought I’d like to share it here as a little snapshot of our AACC talk yesterday in Nashville.

Background: Diane has been thinking and writing about abuse of power and the impact of Christian leaders feeding on the sheep. Together and individually we have talked with churches about whether pastors who abuse or have significant moral and public falls should be restored to the office they formerly held. If you read the existing literature, authors fall into two camps: yes and never.

Now, consider this text: Ezekiel 44. Verse 10 speaks of the sins of the Levites (church leaders), “who wandered from me after their idols…” These leaders, “must bear the consequences of their sin.”  However, verse 11f says, “They may serve in my sanctuary, having charge of the gates of the temple and serving in it; they may slaughter the burnt offerings and sacrifices for the people and serve them. But because they served them in the presence of their idols and made the house of Israel fall into sin, therefore I have sworn with uplifted hand that they must bear the consequences of their sin…They are not to come near to serve me as priests nor come near any of my holy things or my most holy offerings; they must bear the shame of their destestable practices.”

If we apply this to falling after idols in our world, it sounds like the answer is yes there can be restoration to some forms of ministry but not to the most important or highest offices where the person represents the voice of the Lord. Senior pastors who fall from their position may (if repentant) be restored to lower level, nearly lay ministries but must not be returned to the highest offices in the church.

What do you think of this interpretation for today?  

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AACC 2007 World Conference Presentation Today


Today, Diane Langberg and I will be giving a break-out session entitled: Working with Churches that are Dealing with an Abuser: A Model in Progress. If you want to see our PowerPoint slides click the page at the top entitled, “Articles, Slides and Other Things.”

2007 World Conference

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Ed Welch at the Society Conference


Ed talked this am about how he thinks about biblical counseling, integration, and Christian psychology. He sees Christian Psychology as founded upon two good ideas: (a) building a solid infrastructure for our Christian work (in the past christian counseling hasn’t done this well), and (b) helpful listening and dialog so that we can learn from each other (and we haven’t done this well in the past either).

He acknowledged that given his milieu at CCEF and Westminster Seminary, the issues of integration aren’t primary. They might well be for others but haven’t been for him.  He discussed how he sees secular literature. He reads it and enjoys it when stimulating and not so much when it is boring or overly preachy in worldview. As a teacher he asks his students to engage this literature and read it carefully.

What has been more of a primary focus for him is how we access Scripture and the person of Jesus Christ. He spent a considerable amount of his talk on making sure we see problems from Scripture’s multiperspectival approach. As example he used the concept of low self-esteem. In the 80s, biblical counselors rightly pointed out that low self-esteem was poorly masked pride and egocentrism (wanting to look more highly than we think we do).  And yet, he admitted that this is not all that Scripture has to say about the chronic feelings of not measuring up. First, there is the impact of Adam’s original sin. We are in places where we feel guilty because we do not measure up. Second, we must acknowledge the sin done to us and how that shapes our sense of self. As biblical counselors we need to have this rich understanding of problems and not treat issues such as self-esteem from only one perspective.

Ed’s talk was personal and open, as usual. Its really hard to dislike him or to disagree with him–even if I wanted to. I am biased as I have always liked listening to him muse about life. I am glad he has come and lent his voice to the conversation here. It will help those only exposed to radical forms of biblical counseling see a better example and also will help Ed see how others see biblical counseling.

Later in the day, Steve Zombory (Palm Beach Atlantic University) gave a talk entitled, “Why I am not a biblical counselor.” He brought to light some of the lack of self-critique within the movement, the stagnation that may come as a result of not interacting with developments of mind/brain research, of misrepresenting academic psychology. These are some of the complaints I have also raised. He did also suggest that biblical counseling lacks a broad understanding of suffering (I highly disagree) and doesn’t interact with serious pathology (I disagree here but understand that their public writings haven’t been as focused here as much as their teaching). Later, Welch and Zombory will have a public dialog. Should be good.

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Larry Crabb at the Society for Christian Psychology


6 years ago today…remember what you were doing?

Today, the Society for Christian Psychology is meeting for its third annual meeting. Larry Crabb spoke this morning on the topic of Christian psychology. He acknowledged the value of empirical research but talked about being somewhere between Christian psychology and Biblical counseling because empirical work is not his work. His work is to hang out in the Scriptures to understand how God is at work in human healing. He’d like to see our group develop a core dogma that grounds us without being dogmatic. He wants to see a body of thinking that arouses the passions, that transforms, that refines, and isn’t merely intellectually coherent. So what should be the framework for a Christian psychology? Here are his non-negotiable core truths:

1. Final reality is relational not propositional. Truth is not the center of reality unless you define truth as a person. Christian psychology must be rooted in trinitarian theology. The central nature of God is not a substance but a passion.

2. We are wired with the capacity to enjoy God more than any other source of joy. Everything else should pale.

3. Our capacity for enjoying God has been lost in the fall. However, the space designed for enjoying God has remained. It is now perverted into a demanding emptiness searching for fullness anywhere but from God. Our deep longing for love from God has become a demand for pleasure, power, meaning.

4. Our capacity to want God has now been restored in God’s children. But, our natural enmity against him remains and therefore the battle ensues. There is a fundamental battle in our souls going on right now–beneath whatever organic problems and abuse. We have the hope of fulfillment in God but not the actuality.

In many respects I hear Larry not talking so much about Christian psychology but the struggle he has in his own life to understand what God is up to. He is very much, as he suggested, a tortured soul.

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Where is my wallet? Why we find it hard to learn some really important lessons


It never fails, I temporarily lose my wallet when I have to be someplace. Last night, while getting ready for an early am flight today, I couldn’t find my wallet. Looked in all the usual spots, including my pockets but no wallet. I knew I had it a few hours before so it couldn’t be far. And yet I couldn’t find it. So, off I run around the house looking here and there with a growing sense of urgency. My wife didn’t even get up to look. She’s been through the fire drill too many times before.

Adding to the sense of urgency was my last trip where I got to the airport only to discover to wallet and no photo ID.

Why is it that things like wallets disappear right when they are most needed? Well, if I’m honest, that is the wrong question. The right one is, why don’t I always put my wallet in the same place every time when it is not in my pocket. The answer is likely that I don’t think about the crisis until the crisis. I’m too willing to put it in the right spot later when it might be more convenient for me. This method “works” for me a good portion of the time. The crisis only happens every time I go on a trip. Now if I went on a trip every week, I suppose I’d learn faster…

Ever have that problem–that you keep remembering you need to learn some important thing but only seem to remember AFTER the fact? Some things I learn with only one mistake–like the time I went to fix a lamp cord but hadn’t unplugged the lamp yet. Other things need a couple of times–like the 2 times I accidently cut an extension cord with an electric hedge trimmer. Then there is my forgetting to wipe the table after cleaning up the kitchen and the dishes. We’ve been married 17 years and I’m still learning to go and wipe down the table in the dining room.

Relationally we fail to learn as fast as we might. An extrovert keeps thinking his/her spouse would want to go to a large party. We starting conversation with “constructive” critism but fail to remember that it rarely goes well. Or we say, “I probably shouldn’t tell you this but…” and wonder why no one trusts us with their secrets.

What is the lesson you keep forgetting to learn?

Oh, I found that wallet in my computer bag. Now what possessed me to put it there? Probably not wanting to forget it…

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Live blogging from Nashville


On Monday I will be traveling, Lord willing, to Nashville, TN to attend two back to back conferences at the Opryland Hotel (after 4 days in that bubble where the temp never changes and you hear incessant water flowing I crave the outdoors). The Society for Christian Psychology will hold its 3rd annual conference and the AACC will then hold its biennial world conference. I will be making several posts to give a sense of what I am hearing at these two conferences.

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Last Hurrah for summer reading: Juan Williams’ “Enough”


Summer is officially over with yesterday’s faculty meeting. Monday is the start of the the new semester. Starting mid September, look for my multi-post reviews of Leslie Vernick’s freshly minted, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship: Seeing It, Stopping It, Surviving It (Harvest House) and Mark McMinn’s Integrative Psychotherapy: Towards a Comprehensive Christian Approach.

But right now, thanks to Ed Gilbreath’s Blues blog (see blogroll), I’m half-way through Juan Williams’ Enough: The Phony Leaders, Dead-End Movements, and Culture of Failure That Are Undermining Black America–and What We Can Do About It (2006, Three Rivers Press). With a title like that you know it has to be a rant. But boy does he take contemporary leaders (e.g., Sharpton and Jackson), rappers, and some city politicians to the woodshed. He minces no words when he chastizes those talking about reparations or excusing corruption (pay to play) in politics or the church. And he backs up his criticisms with facts. Apparently this book was born out of his exasparation over the way the content of Bill Cosby’s scathing criticisms (in 2004) of black culture and victimhood were ignored by black leadership. His point seems to be to call black folk to stop playing the victim/racism card and start acknowledging and fixing internal problems such as violence against women, single parenting, disdain for education and learning the language. If you have read John McWhorter, you will see similar themes in this book.

So, how should white folk read this book? Try to avoid, “its about time someone put Dyson or Sharpton or Jackson in his place” or “Finally, someone is bringing up the 3rd rail in black politics–the racism card.” Why? Because it is like the observers of a fight where a bully has repeatedly beaten up a little kid saying, “Oh, stop you whining and crying. The bully’s gone. Get over it already.” No, we should still continue to evaluate how we folk benefit from generations of opportunity and seek to serve any “least of these” we come across. Let’s not throw stones but clean our own houses first.

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Anxious Calvinism and Red Sox fans


I confess I’m an anxious calvinist. Calvinists believe many wonderful things, but chief of the beliefs is the sovereignty of God. God is in control and is working things out for our good and His glory. He saves us and sanctifies us and ultimately will glorify us. So, what is there to be anxious about? Well, we live in a broken world and so God uses broken things to sanctify us and to cause us to lean on Him for all things. So, an anxious calvinist knows that God is sovereign but expects difficult things that can’t be controlled or stopped.

When it anxious calvinism leans too heavily on the anxious side, it would be better known as fatalism. 

How did I come by this? Well, my father is a retired minister in the 4 point Calvinist/Reformed tradition. My mother worries now and then.

No, I won’t blame my parents for my theology. Its being a Red Sox fan in a world where there is an evil empire (aka the Yankees) that frequently destroys hope of winning a division. So, even when they finally win a World Series (2004) and currently own the best record in baseball this year with less than a month to go in the season, Red Sox fans everywhere are anxious, looking over their shoulders, imagining the collapse of the team and visceral experience that things are not the way they are supposed to be. How does this work for me? My home page lists the most recent games by the Sox and Yankees. Each night I check with one eye open to see if my fears are confirmed that Sox lose and Yankees win. Last night, Sox won. Sigh. There’s always tomorrow for it to fall apart.

So, I’m an anxious Calvinist. I know that God works all things for His glory and my good. Sometimes I just don’t want to remember that we live in a fallen world…I try not to care but I can’t help myself. I know its “just baseball.”

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“Criminal Hysteria”: Should we stalk online predators?


Sunday’s Philadelphia Inquirer (Currents section) had an editorial by Mark Bowden about those who lure men via cyberspace into seeking sexual liasons with underage young women.  He believes that if you offer anything on the internet, someone, somewhere will be the sucker for it–even if it is completely outrageous and not plausible in the real world. He suggests that programs like “To catch a Predator” on NBC or other task forces (mentioned in the article) that lure men to have sex with mothers and their young children are only culling out the most idiotic of our nation–those unlikely to ever succeed in such a liason in the real world. He wonders if these programs only play on the dark thoughts that everyone has and uses media to enhance those desires that would likely never have risen to the place of an act without the anonymity of the internet. “Dangle temptation before a large enough crowd, and a few would-be sinners will step forward….New flash: There is evil in the souls of men.”

So, do these programs and the trolling efforts by police snag dangerous people or merely the foolish? Bowden seems to be suggesting that this is a fad born out of hysteria, just like the 1980s and the Satanic Ritual Abuse fad. Well, much of the SRA was hype and hysteria (not all though), but our data on child abuse and the impact of child porn is not hysteria. There are real numbers on child abuse. When 1:3 women (and 1:4 or 5 men) report unwanted sexual contact before age 18…

But, maybe we ought to have a go at trying to prosecute portals and sites that allow porn. Maybe we can learn something from China. They eliminate all sites that speak ill of the government. Even Google filters their Chinese search engine. If only Yahoo, Google, MSN, and AOL took the problem of porn and sex-filled chat rooms seriously what would become of the world? That is what it will take: individuals who want to spend their life erradicating the internet version of polio.

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